Involving Your Kids in Chores

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I know, you’re reading the title of this blog post and you think I’m a crazy person. Maybe your kids are only toddlers or they’re older but they just drive you nuts when they try to do chores. Let me tell you, involving your kids in chores, even at a very young age, is going to be a major game changer for you...and for your children!

Having your children help around the home will teach them important life skills, it will give them a sense of pride, helps them to feel like a valuable part of the household, and it teaches them responsibility.

Involving your children in chores will also help you practice patience. When you are first teaching your children how to do chores you can’t expect them to do things perfectly. And really, with little kids, you shouldn’t expect them to be able to do things completely by themselves and perfectly even if they’ve done the chore a dozen times before. You need to have patience. And I know that is way easier said than done, my boys test my patience 24/7 and with chores, it’s usually even worse. Taking deep breaths is a big help for me and sometimes I have to walk into the next room for a minute or two to regroup and I have typically already yelled once or twice before this. But when I see how proud my boys are after they have completed a chore, whether it’s on their own or by my side, it makes me want to be more patient.

To help avoid some frustration, try to make chores fun whenever possible. Make cleaning the windows a race or turn on some fun music while you are doing the dishes. Get creative and make it fun and you will both feel more at ease.

If your kids are still little, there are still plenty of chores that they can help with around the house. If they are two-years-old or under, they will likely just be helping you a little bit as they chore. Preschool-aged kids can do a few things independently but remember that even if they seem older, they are still just little kids and that’s okay. Elementary School-aged kids can do most chores independently but remember to do things alongside them every once in a while so they can learn how to do things better and so you can lead by example.

I also recommend using cleaning supplies that are non-toxic like Young Living’s Thieves Household Cleaner. It doesn’t have any toxic chemicals in it they may cause respiratory issues or headaches or dizziness in children and you can use it on everything from the windows to the kitchen counters to the floor. You can learn more about the Thieves Household cleaner and other non-toxic products on the Well & Bright Living blog.

Chores by Age

If your kids are still little, there are still plenty of chores that they can help with around the house. If they are two-years-old or under, they will likely just be helping you a little bit as they chore. Preschool-aged kids can do a few things independently but remember that even if they seem older, they are still just little kids and that’s okay. Elementary School-aged kids can do most chores independently but remember to do things alongside them every once in a while so they can learn how to do things better and so you can lead by example.

Elementary Schoolers (9- to 11-years-old)

All early elementary schooler chores
Make simple meals
Clean bathroom
Take trash to the curb
Load/unload the dishwasher
Fold laundry
Wash and dry clothes without help
Organize toys
Clean all living areas
Homework supervised

Middle Schoolers (12- to 14-years-old)

All elementary schooler chores
Babysit/supervise younger siblings
Make full meals
Yard work
Homework without supervision
Meal plan

Toddlers (2- to 3-years-old)

Help load/unload the dishwasher
Pick up toys with direction
Dust
Help put clothes in washer/dryer
Wipe down windows after you have sprayed
Help clean the floor

Preschoolers (4- to 5-years-old)

All toddler chores
Spray and wipe down windows
Vacuum
Feed pets
Set the table
Make bed
Put away groceries
Wash produce
Pick up toys with little direction
Sort the laundry
Help put away laundry

Early Elementary Schoolers (6- to 8-years-old)

All preschooler chores
Help meal prep (wash produce, simple cutting, mixing, measuring)
Sweep and clean floor
Clean fridge and appliances
Help with yard work
Pick up toys
Get/make snacks
Help fold laundry
Put away laundry


Let’s work together to raise children who contribute and who understand responsibility and it starts by having them help with housework. For more inspiration, the amazing Allie Casazza has a podcast episode titled “Delegation & Automation for Moms” and in it, she talks about how her children help around the house and the importance of having kids do chores. I highly recommend you take a listen to pretty every episode of her podcast but especially this one.

How do your kids help are the house? Share photos on Instagram and tag them with #iamajoyfulhomemaker so we can all see them!